Psychological Extreme FemDom Fetish Mistress Male Humiliation

I engage in very specific forms of humiliation, but, infrequently. Why?  I find a lot of forms of humiliation to be far too low brow for My personal taste because in My experience, it tends to attract the lower rung of the male submissive herd. However, there are always many exceptions.  I felt this wikipedia article was informative enough to post, for your information, and quite frankly My own personal reference. I have edited it to exclude terms or forms I do not participate in.

Erotic humiliation is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context, whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another; often (but not always) in conjunction with sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity. The humiliation need not be sexual in itself; as with many other sexual activities it is the feelings derived from it which are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. It can be verbal or physical, and can be relatively private or public. Often it can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance or online. The distinction between humiliation and dominance in an activity such as erotic spanking is that the sought-after effect is primarily the humiliation; the activity is just a means to that end.

While fantasy and fascination with erotic humiliation is a prevalent part of BDSM or other sexual roleplay, relatively little has been written on it. Humiliation play can however be taken to a point where it becomes emotionally or psychologically distressing to one or the other partner, especially if it is public humiliation. Erotic femdom humiliation can become extreme enough to be considered a form of edgeplay, that some consider may best be approached with advance negotiation and use of a safeword. This is a highly subjective issue, and depends greatly on context.

Terminology and overview

The person being humiliated is often called a bottom, and the person who humiliates them is often called the top, (though these are standard terms used in general dominant/submissive role play and are not specific to humiliation interests) or if female, sometimes humiliatrix. Other common names are slave or sub/submissive for the bottom, and Master/Mistress or Dom/Domme for the top.

Humiliation is not the same as dominance, as the devotee is not necessarily seeking to be ordered about. Humiliation comes into its own as a sexual force when the devotee seeks the humiliation over and above the means; for example, when being spanked is primarily valued because of the belittlement involved. As such, it encompasses a range of paraphilia, in particular foot fetish or shoe fetish, body worship, spanking, bondage and most BDSM styles. It can be as basic as the desire to kiss and massage feet as a precursor to sex, or it can be complex, involving roleplay or public displays of subservience. It can also be for a set period of time (a “scene”) or as an ongoing facet of a relationship. The “humiliation” is not intrinsic to the act or the object. Rather, it is semiotically charged by the shared attitude of the partners engaged in the act. It is they who invest specific acts, objects or body-parts with a humiliating aspect.

Means of humiliation

Means of humiliation

There are many scenarios which may be considered as giving rise to sexual humiliation. Some scenarios may be based on verbal abuse and others on physical aspects.

Verbal aspects might include:

* Reduction to Human animal roleplay or human pet, referring to these individuals as pet, dog,  bitch, or making them eat and drink from pet food and water bowls.
* Verbal belittlement, such as “slave”, “boy”, “pet”.
* Insults and verbal abuse, such as “fat”, “ugly”, “stupid”, “worthless”.
* Degrading references, such as “slut”, “tart”, “bitch”, and “whore”.
* Racial or ethnic slurs
* Slighting of body parts or behaviors, such as disparaging or cruel references to size, facial appearance, genitalia or genital size, bottom, and slighting of mannerisms such as walking, responsiveness, standard of self-care.
* Having to ask permission for everyday activities such as  spending money or eating.

* Small penis humiliation, where scorn is addressed over the supposed inadequacy of the adult male’s genitals, or his inability to please a lover, and his penis becomes an object of derision.
* Repetition, such as being obliged to repeat back commands to confirm them.
* Seduced flattery, such as agreeing that every decision that the dominant makes is wise, correct, and justifiable, while additionally praising the dominant’s physical and personality traits.
* Mockery, derision, and ridicule.
* Being scolded.

Physical and tangible aspects might include:

* Ejaculating from other men or spitting on the bottom’s body, especially the face.
* Performance of menial tasks or abusive workload, such as cleaning the floors with a toothbrush.
* Frequent, mandatory performance of sexual services for the dominant, such as erotic massage, cunnilingus, analingus, or fellatio, without expectations of reciprocal acts or intercourse.
* Detailed accountability and control (micro-management) as to time spent or activities done, including list of jobs to do, precise directions as to how the housework is to be performed, and exactly how to act and behave.
* Specific rituals and affectations to be adopted. This includes displays of subservience, such as lighting cigarettes, walking a pace behind the dominant, only speaking when spoken to, kneeling or prostrating in front of the dominant when expecting orders, eating only after others or on the floor, low status place to sleep, and a wide variety of body worship activities such as kissing or licking the dominant’s feet, boots, buttocks, anus, vulva, etc. to express acknowledgment, subservience, shame, or even positive emotions such as happiness or excitement.
* Suppressed freedom of movement and/or privacy. This may include never being able to leave the room in which the dominant is present without permission, being forbidden to leave the house or ‘dungeon’ in general for the duration of slavery or servitude, etc.
* Detailed punishments for a variety of ‘infractions’ or misbehavior, such as having to stand in a corner facing a wall for several hours, reduced rations, or excessive exercise..
* Spanking, slapping, restraint or other BDSM activities such as cock and ball torture (CBT).
* Prohibitions or restrictions on clothing, even in public. For men, a particularly powerful sense of humiliation may be achieved through feminizing or cross-dressing. Men may be expected to go completely nude, with decorative objects such as collars, bands, bow ties, or cuffs being the only exceptions.
* Use of chastity belts or other means of erotic sexual denial.
* Wearing of external signs of “ownership”, such as a collar.
* Having friends, family or strangers aware of or witnessing one’s treatment (i.e., public humiliation).
* Erotic objectification, where the bottom is cast in the role of an object, such as a footstool.
* Embarrassment.
* Male anal penetration using dildos, anal plugs or similar objects.
* Cuckoldry, taking on a third party lover to humiliate the bottom as an expression of the relationship between the top and the bottom. In this scenario, the bottom typically is allowed only to witness, and not invited or permitted to participate.
* Having to ask permission to orgasm during sex or masturbation.
* Wearing a gag or restraints on the body.
* Financial domination, where usually a submissive (or money slave) will give gifts and money to a dominant. The relation may often be accompanied by other practices of BDSM, but there may be virtually no further intimacy between the individuals.
* Teased masturbation in a humiliating manner.
* Feelings of humiliation are key to many of those engaged in klismaphilia.
* Feederism

Some sexual humiliation involves inflicting pain, but much of it is far more concerned with ridicule, mocking, degradation, and embarrassment

Psychology of humiliation

Humiliation in general stimulates the same brain regions that are associated with physical pain, the inference being that humans evolved to remember social rewards and punishments as strongly as other animals recall physical reward or pain in response to their environment. As with any form of pain experimentation in a sexual context, consent and (paradoxically) a high degree of awareness and communication is needed to ensure that the result is desirable, rather than abusive. For example, a submissive may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but be genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways.

Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualised by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) one’s sexual degradation.

For some people, activities such as name-calling are a way of achieving ego reduction or getting over sexual inhibitions. For example, between gay people, terms usually associated with homophobia may be used, such as “faggot” or “dyke.”

As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies relating to mild humiliation are not uncommon. Some humiliation roleplay (pup-play  in particular) is combined with loyalty and care-giving to the extent that these fetishes can be seen as exercises in trust rather than primarily a humiliation fetish. Consider that the desire to be beneath the other partner during intercourse, the idea of “getting caught” such as with having sex in the garden or woods, are mild emotional games that emphasise status, vulnerability and control. However, for most people such ideas remain a fantasy and they would have strong reservations about it being made public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. If a person does reveal their fetish to their partners, this usually is a result of a huge amount of trust invested in them, due to the similarly huge psychological struggle they would have had to have gone through to tell them. However, the desire to be humiliated may be a motivating cause for confession as the act of confessing would be humiliating. Many people have the worry of being ridiculed for their fetish, and such ridicule from their partners could be psychologically catastrophic. Therefore, many people use online humiliation (where the humiliator and others are involved via the internet using chat, email, websites, etc.) as a compromise between exhibitionism and reality on the one hand, and safety and anonymity on the other.

Online humiliation

Online humiliation is the desire to be seen in a sexually embarrassing context via the internet. This practice allows the submissive to seek fetish partners from across the world.

Common methods of online humiliation include:

* Public pillory
* Embarrassing photographic or video assignments for submissives – submissive must humiliate themselves on camera, etc.
* The requirement for submissives to keep online journals, detailing personal information such as masturbation frequency and details
* Verbal abuse
* Publicly bidding for items that reveal their fetishes
* Money slavery – submissive must buy dominant gifts, pay for bills, or pay taxes
* Homework slavery – submissive must do the dominant’s homework, or occupational work
* Repetitive assignments such as copying the phone book, etc.

These practices can be conducted via chat, webcam, e-mail, BDSM contact websites such as niteflirt.

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Collateral Damage: Fucking Over Your Wife or Girl Friend – FemDom Blackmail – Financial Domination

When it comes to Financial Domination and blackmail, there is often a special kind of collateral damage: your wife or girlfriend.

What do I love about blackmail and Financial Domination? That your wife becomes an unwitting participant.

What do I mean?

By virtue of the fact you are engaging in risky behavior with Me, and sending Me money that she might otherwise get in one way or another, she becomes collateral damage.

She won’t know about it, unless you get caught, or you don’t comply with My financial demands. But that vacation you two have been saving for? That money is now mine. The new car she’s been asking for? My money.

It’s up to you to think up lies to tell her, in order to explain where that money went. You’re clever, you can do it.

But My control over you, the blackmailed submissive man, has an indirect impact on her.

I think that’s hot as hell.

Do I give a shit that I am taking away, not only from you, but your wife or girlfriend? Hell no. I didn’t make any vows or promises to her, you did.

Will I expose you to your wife or girlfriend? It really all depends, doesn’t it?

By the way, I stopped “exposing” men to their ex wives or girl friends as a form of punishment or humiliation a long time ago. A common fetish, I still occasionally get a man who wants Me to call his ex wife or girlfriend in the first 10 minutes of a call. One sub recently expected Me to call an ex in another county to do it. He was out of his fucking mind and I told him so.

You have to make it financially worth My while to do so. Paying Me for 10 minutes of My precious time is not making it worth My while. Blackmail is about owning you, controlling you, having real power over you for an extended or indefinite period of time. I have a wallet fucking fetish in addition to a real blackmail fetish.

No, I want to exploit you, use you, make you suffer. I want to make bigger and bigger financial demands on you. I WANT to know you are having to hide expenditures and lie about where the money goes to your wife or girlfriend.

I WANT to know your wife is collateral damage, that she is a participant in your blackmail game, your Financial Domination exploits. That she is caught up in your high risk behavior whether she wants to be or not. I like knowing how terribly upset she would be if she found out about you talking to another women, no doubt far sexier and hotter than she is, sharing private information and giving Me what she would consider her money. She has to scrub the skid marks out of your briefs while you give Me your money. That pleases Me.

Am I a heartless or mean cruel bitch? You were the one who got weak, You were the one who let your cock do the talking. I only exploited you because of it, and yes, it gets Me off knowing it also exploits your wife or girlfriend too.

I’m sure your wife is now fat, ugly or stopped giving you blow jobs a long time ago. She spends far too much of your money, then bitches and nags at you because you don’t spend enough time with her. Even if she still has sex with you, it’s become as boring, predictable and routine as flossing your teeth, hasn’t it?

That’s what makes being blackmailed and Financially Dominated by Me so fucking hot! You want to make her suffer too, don’t you? I know you want to get back at her yourself. Your stupid wife doesn’t deserve your money, I do.

Go ahead. If you get caught, and in your desperation to mitigate damages, let Her call Me up and cuss Me out. She’ll be paying Me even MORE of your/her money for the privilege. I already own her. I’m the women who turns her husband on. I’m the Mistress who makes her husband jerk off to the sound of My voice while paying Me to do it. I’m the one who will be laughing in your face as well as hers. No, I don’t care.

I know this excites you. I know you can’t help yourself. I know your cock is telling you to call Me right now. I WILL rape your wallet! Don’t think, click My call button and let the exploitation begin!!
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Unusual Strange Bizarre Male Submissive Slave Fetish and Fetishes

I am often asked: “What’s the most unusual, strange or bizarre fetish or scenario you have ever done, or a submissive man has wanted to do, or that you did to a slave?”

It depends on your definition of “unusual, strange or bizarre”. The beauty of online distance training is you encounter a much wider assortment of sub men, some of whom have very unusual fantasies.

I got a call a couple days ago, that started out to be a new one on Me. A monumental thing, considering the some 30,000 men I have Dominated via online or phone.

He opened the session by telling Me he had robbed a bank, and he wanted to be interrogated about it. Intrigued, I did ask him a lot of very specific questions about what he had done, drilling for even more information. When he suggested I punish him for “being bad”, I demanded he give Me the money he had taken, because it wasn’t his to have or enjoy. I turned his unusual fetish into a fetish I personally enjoyed. That’s My way of doing things.

When it comes to the unique or unconventional fetishes men have asked Me to play out, the list is endless.  Generally, if you can imagine it, there is someone or a group of men who get off on it. Women popping balloons, men with a fur fetish, female kidnapping male scenarios, bizarre insertions into a mans ass, finding women with long fingernails sexually arousing, the sound of high heels on a tile floor, being transformed onto a cock sucking robot, humping the arm of a couch, putting things on a penis that makes it burn (such as pepper or hot sauce), and a whole lot more I will add to as I think of them.

The more unusual things, fetishes or bizarre/extreme things I have made men do?

A lot of the more unusual fetishes I like doing to men have to do with financial exploitation and blackmail manipulation. I got over the standard bizarre fetish interest a long time ago. Making men do strange things, simply for the amusement of watching them do it. That played itself out fairly quickly for Me.

I could write a very large book about the strange, bizarre or unusual things I have made men do. As long as it was legal, I have likely made a man do it. And I have enjoyed making men do all sorts of things. I won’t get into a big or in depth “laundry list” here, but a few very mild examples were to make men cum on a photo of their wives’ pictures, made men jerk off in front of windows at their job during working hours, and one who jerked off the side of a major bridge in a major city during rush hour traffic, say My name out loud the next time they fucked their wives, told a man sworn to celibacy to hire and fuck a prostitute, have My name tattooed on their body, hiring a male escort to suck their cock while I egged them on over the phone, to walking around wearing a tee shirt that had any number of sayings on it, such as “No one knows I like to suck cock” or “Will rim ass for money”.

I’ll save the really bizarre and strange things for the books I am writing.

As I said, these kinds of things tend to be the stuff that amuses those new to the scene, and I outgrew the sophomore stage a long time ago. To be honest, the one’s that I enjoy the most are things like blackmailing men, gaining real power through the garnering of personal information, and milking them for their money, but more so, financially ruining them. Making a man lose his job, his wife, his house, his car, and everything he once owned and was comfortable with. Now that’s a real rush for Me.

I also love manipulating men into giving Me very large sums of money. Or accumulating money quickly over a short period of time from My pay pigs, money slaves, human ATM machines , raping wallets as I do daily on niteflirt.

How often have I told a man interested in serving Me, that I liked his car, and was going to take it, and… I simply did, making him get the paperwork himself to sign it over to Me. Or told a man he was going to sign the deed to his house over to Me, or give Me the majority of the stock percentage of a business or company he owned.

Playing in the big leagues, I like to call it. Doing things that benefit Me directly, financially.

This is a partial post I will add to as I think of more bizarre, unusual or unknown fetishes.

Note that I very much enjoy doing other things. Not all men are into blackmail and Financial Domination, and if that’s not your kink, I won’t press the issue. I talk about these two fetishes a lot, because men want to do these two things with Me the most. And I enjoy them and do them well.

If you have a strange or unusual fetish, chances are, I’ve already heard of it and done it, but I’d love to hear unknown fetishes. if you have a fetish you don’t think anyone has heard of, call Me now. I love surprises.

Note that niteflirt does have topic restrictions of which I will not indulge you in as I use and respect their platform. You can send an email first if you are not sure.

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Female Supremacy – Female Led Relationships – Defining Submissive Man Relationships

A sub sent Me this photo, and I find it incredibly erotic. A male submissive or slave, head encased in a leather hood, sexy man wearing a business suit, kissing his Mistress. Very arousing.

I know some Dominant women are married to submissive men. You usually hear about this in regards to a cuckold couple. The couple marry, and his inability to sexually please his wife causes her to seek sexual satisfaction outside the marriage.

I myself have been cuckolding men for a long time, but I never desired to marry one of them. My cuckolds are as loyal and dedicated to Me as if they were married to Me, remaining celibate unless I allow them some kind of sexual self release.

Always unconventional, I have no desire to get married. But… I also keep an open mind to hearing suggestions.

I once knew a wonderful submissive man who simply wanted to put Me on a pedestal, worship Me, indulge Me, gift Me, and… Be in love with Me. His sincerity was charming, and we had a lot of natural chemistry. We would talk for hours about all sorts of things, little having to do with Domination. It was lovely. He told Me he loved Me often, said I made his feel like a school boy who was having his first real crush on a girl. That’s how I made him feel. Quite charming, really. He gifted and tributed Me generously.

He started to bring up the subject of us having some sort of relationship. He very much wanted to be married to Me or have a live in situation, short of a legal commitment. Curious how he thought we could have this kind of more ‘conventional’ relationship,  I asked him a lot of questions about what a Domme/sub relationship such this would be like.

He wanted to appear traditional on the outside, in the public eye. Said he’d still treat Me like the Queen I was in public, and we’d express our more Domme/submissive relationship in private.

He went on to explain he would draw Me baths, massage My feet and enjoy spending as much time with Me as possible. Make Me dinner, get Me drinks and generally cater to Me in every way. Sounded like a good idea, however, I already do this with all of My subs.

Then at some point, he mentioned having sex with Me.

The thing is, I don’t have sex with submissive men.

And I don’t envision a submissive man trying to fulfill the majority of My sexual needs, except perhaps an occasional oral session where he pleasures Me. This sub was convinced he could love Me enough so I wouldn’t desire other men. What a catch I would make! Too bad he wasn’t nearly enough to win over any part of Me except My attention at the times he was spoiling Me

I have as few or as many alpha male lovers as I desire. That’s it. No argument. My subs remain loyal to Me, while I get to do whatever I want with whoever I want.

When I met My latest lover, this same sub went crazy with jealousy. I knew then, that this was not going to be a sub who would have any kind of Domme/sub relationship with Me at all. If you as a sub can’t handle the concept that you will never be My sexual equal, nor will you be the man who could ever meet My sexual needs, then you are better suited for someone else. I dumped that sub. Broke his heart too, poor guy.

I will define the relationships I want to have, and there will be no deviation. I do not want to be married to a submissive man. I don’t understand those who are married to their submissive, but, to each their own.

My submissive men already cater to My every whim. My subbies meet My every need, and going out of their way anticipate My needs. But when I want to be alone with a lover, that submissive man or men have to get the hell out of My sight.

I will have as many submissive men and slaves as I desire. If some get jealous of the other, or get jealous of My lovers, I don’t care. Better I play them off each other, pit them as competitors, see if one can outdo another to win My attention. I find it entertaining to  watch men fight over Me.

It’s My Goddess world and you are only being allowed to share a part of it. I get to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. If it happens a sub is not fulfilling My needs in some way, he is cast aside and twenty more gladly step up to take his place. Face it, there is no shortage of willing sub men who want to serve Me. You as a sub are greatly outnumbered. The advantage is on My side. I will pick and choose among those who treat Me the best. You will work hard to impress Me, accept your place at My feet, or be cast out of My life forever.

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Sex, Porn, Blackmail and Financial Domination Addict Fucked Over!

How twisted would a FemDom addictions counselor therapist have to be, to mess with an internet online porn, sex, blackmail and Financial Domination addict?

A sub called Me yesterday, and explained he had just come out of a month of rehab for his sex and internet porn addiction. He also couldn’t help engaging in blackmail and Financial Domination.

He told Me he was struggling. At the rehab center, they gave him treatment, and declared he was “cured” after a month, and released him.

He found himself in rehab when he was caught by his wife being blackmailed by an online domme. He lost his job, his wife left him, and he went into rehabilitation for his sex addiction.

Poor sub. Men and their internet sexual porn addictions really get them into trouble sometimes, doesn’t it?

So  after explaining to Me his plight, and how weak he was feeling at that moment, and how badly he needed help to resist his strong urge to be blackmailed and Financially Dominated again, what did I do?

First I exploited him.

Then I fucked him over.

I made him backslide so far past his month of sex addiction rehab, he’ll never be right again!

Exposed him again to his now ex-wife, made him walk to the end of his driveway and drop his pants and jerk off while telling the world what a sex addicted pervert he was. And then I made him to pay Me to do it.

I know how frightened but excited you are to know I do this to men. I also know, you too are unable to resist a woman so calculating, so twisted, so evil. Go ahead, try and resist Me. I know you can’t!

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Mistress Sabina Erotica FemDom Interview

I was asked to answer a series of questions, to be posted on a soon to be launched elite Domination website highlighting the worlds most truly powerful Dominas. Below is the interview.

1. Please introduce yourself: Who are you, and what do you do?

I am Mistress Sabina Erotica, lifestyle Dominatrix, Dominant woman, certified BDSM, fetish, lifestyle educator/counselor, specializing in Financial Domination addictions (the original FinDom Therapist), and male Domination, Financial Domination Queen, elite of the elite, and blackmail specialist.

2. When did you know you wanted to be a Mistress/Dominatrix?

I learned when I was very young, there were two different kinds of men: The  alpha/assertive, and the submissive/servile. The submissive ones wanted to carry My books home from school, do My chores and run My errands. All they wanted from Me in return was to bask in My glory. I appreciated all the things they did for Me, and the money and gifts they would give Me. I found them very easy to control and manipulate if I so desired. In return, all I had to do was give them a little bit of My attention, and they were thrilled.

Over the years I have explored the deeper levels of being a Dominatrix and what being in control means, at all levels. I strive to be the best of the best at whatever I desire to do. And, I am.  However, identifying Myself as a Mistress or a Dominatrix is only a part of the complex person I am, not the totality.

3. How do you express your Dominance? In other words, are you a pro, lifestyle, etc?

I am an unconventional lifestyle Mistress, marching to the beat of My own drum. I make My own rules, and cast off stereotypes of what it’s supposed to  “mean” to be a “Domme”. I live the life most people only dream about living. I do what I want to do, when I want to do it. I answer to no one but Myself. I am highly selective about the men who serve Me real time. They are among the lucky few who get to be in My presence, and they know it and treat Me accordingly.

Nearly a decade ago I included online or distance training  and email sessions to My Domination repertoire via the internet.

4. What are the differences between doing real time sessions and online/distance training sessions?

I’ve found the variety, speed, the need for discretion for My client subs and convenience of online Domination sessions to be very much to My liking. You cannot learn as much as I have learned doing phone Domination sessions in a lifetime of pro or real time sessions. You can’t meet the volume and diversity of men I have met either. I have very loyal and committed real time subs who serve Me well, but I tend to be predatory, always seeking the latest conquest. Online or distance training sessions are always changing depending on who I am in session with, keeping My interest level fresh. If one session doesn’t please Me, I only have to wait a short time, and there will be a better session/sub.

My real times subs get the privilege of interacting with Me by rubbing My feet, serving Me a drink, cleaning My house, doing My errands, taking Me shopping, traveling, and all the things an online or phone submissive is unable to do. My real time subs are fiercely loyal and devoted to pleasing Me. They constantly demonstrate their submission to Me and indulge Me financially in very generous ways

5. What is your opinion about men?

I love men. Men are My friends, My lovers and My servants. No, I don’t think all men are “losers”. Quite the contrary.  I adore men. I like to like the men I Dominate. I prefer to surround Myself with smart, successful men, whether they be friend, lover or submissive. I also enjoy exploiting men, manipulating men, and using men.

6. What are the things you like and the things you dislike as a Mistress/Dominatrix?

Control. I have explored what control means My whole life. I understand it’s nuances better than anyone, bar none. I like being in control, being able to control men who have a lot of control in their daily lives. Controlling a lot of men worldwide.

Power. One can never have enough power, and having power over men is a way of life for Me. I feel comfortable Dominating some of the worlds most outwardly powerful men.

Total power exchange. Real power exchanges such as exploiting men financially and accumulating personal information gives Me real, tangible leverage. I deal in realism, real power exchange, not play pretend fantasy power.

What is there to dislike about being a Mistress? I can’t think of a single thing.

7. What kind of submissive man are you attracted to? Who are the men attracted to you?

This is an easy one. I like smart, intelligent, successful men, men who are ambitious and driven to succeed in their daily lives with a need to be submissive in private. Forward thinking, original, self made men, men with money and the desire to indulge a woman of My caliber. Men who have the ability to recognize My unique qualities and intelligence. Men with charisma,  who make Me laugh, who inspire My mind, who can have interesting conversations outside of their personal interests in their own fetishes, men who have a genuine interest in Me and how to best please Me. Men who can think for themselves, who anticipate My needs, who strive to please Me in their own ways. Visionaries, corporate men, free thinkers… The list goes on.

The men who are attracted to Me tend to be  exactly the kind of men I want to attract. I seek men I prefer to control and encourage those who fit My personal taste.

8. What do people get out of interacting with you?

The most powerful and rewarding form of Domination and control begins and ends in the mind and no one understands this like I do. No one. It’s easy to beat a man into submission, I’d rather inspire him to want to serve Me. I am curious about the men who are curious about Me. The Domme/sub dynamics are deeply explored with Me. I prefer long term interactions as those are more rewarding than the infrequent quickie session. The more a man gives, the more he gets. It’s My opinion that Domination should be a mutually enjoyable experience for both/all people involved. Sub men who show by action their sincere desire to please Me, get My sustained best in return. I will control you in all the ways you ever dreamed of.

10. What turns you on? What turns you off?

What turns Me on? Money. When a man gives Me a lot of money. The indisputable power exchange of money. I discovered My love for Financial Domination and financial exploitation long before it was called Financial Domination.

Blackmail. Having real power, control and leverage in a mans life. Making him do exactly as I please, or suffer real and tangible consequences.

Other times it can be that elusive Domme/sub chemistry two people have when they come together, or the way a sub responds to Me that I find arousing.

A few of the other things I enjoy in addition to Financial Domination and blackmail in no particular order: Mind fucking, mental manipulation, Female Supremacy, Cuckold, tease and denial, guided masturbation, total power exchange, intoxication, addictions, exploitation, money slavery, pay piggies, Goddess worship, complete financial ruin, life control, Dominant life coach/GFE (girl friend experience), time constraints, servitude, bi/glory hole, erotic power exchange, FemDomme FemDom Fatale relationships, phychological torment and much, much more.

For a more comprehensive fetish list of the things I enjoy, see My website HERE.

What turns Me off? Men who talk about the fantasy of Financial Domination and blackmail. The completely self-centered, the self serving kinksters who show no interest in Me except as a vehicle to his orgasm. I’ll do sessions with them, as long as they are respectful enough, and compensating Me well for My expertise, but I won’t remember who they are the moment I hang up. In fact, the only submissive men who stay on My radar are those who are actively striving to please Me in the ways I outline on My website. The rest I simply forget the moment I hang up the phone except to see how much money I garnered from them.

I have the popularity and the ability to pick and choose among the very best to interact with. Those I don’t like or who disrespect Me, simply get blocked. It’s a privilege being in My world.

11. Do you have relationships with your submissive partners?

It depends on how you define a “relationship”. If you mean in the more conventional sense, as in being married to a submissive man or cuckold, the answer is no. I don’t “date” submissive men. I have alpha lovers who meet My sexual needs, and I Dominate My subs. As I am an authentic lifestyle FemDom I don’t have sex or sexual contact with My subs.  However, I do have very deep, meaningful relationships with some of My subs in terms of emotional, financial and non-contact sexual ways.

12. Are you actively involved in the BDSM scene?

Do I attend BDSM social functions, munches or fetish gatherings? No. I find them boring, crass and pretentious. I feel the same way about a lot of different social gatherings, not just BDSM.

13. Anything else you’d like people to know that wasn’t covered already?

I don’t think most men are “losers”. While I can take control of a willing sub in an instant, I don’t expect every man to drop to his knees for Me the moment we connect. I am genuine and authentic, I do not act or play a role. I prefer My subs to be the same.

I rarely if ever pursue a man, men pursue Me. I know My value and worth as a Domina not because I proclaim it, but because 30,000+ men have both told Me and shown Me. Men indulge Me, a LOT of men indulge Me. If you want My attention, you must demonstrate and prove yourself. You have tough competition.

I am a leader among My own, top rated Mistress and ranked at the top of niteflirt, the most competitive phone sex Domination website with the highest level of competition to be found anywhere on the internet. I demonstrate My own personal power in very real and verifiable ways, therefor I expect to be treated accordingly.

How can submissive men interested in sessions with you, contact you?

I conduct phone distance training sessions and online paid email sessions via niteflirt under My name, Sabina Erotica and Mistress Sabina Erotica. Find My Main listing click HERE.

I have several websites, and a blog all which can be found on My main website at

Thank you Mistress Sabina Erotica for this insightful interview.

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What Are Sabina Erotica’s Fetishes?


I created these images a few years ago, rediscovered them on an old blog of Mine from 2008. My style, taste and approach to Domination and who I enjoy Dominating hasn’t changed. I still love turning powerful men into My play and pay pets.

This one does make Me smile.

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Your Value To Me As A Money Slave – Financial Domination with Mistress Sabina Erotica

I’m going to give a guideline as to what you mean to Me in My world:

You are only as important to Me, as what you are doing for Me right now.

I have submissive men begging Me to financially Dominate, exploit and blackmail them virtually every day. I don’t sit ranked at the top of niteflirt, the leader among phone sex sites with the heaviest competition among phone sex operators under “Find Women” every day for nothing. That spot is earned. Earned by Me exploiting men just like you. Because I have the skills it takes, to effectively milk men of their money.
I am the worlds BEST FinDim.

Ranked and rated as the HIGHEST Financial Dominatrix on the worlds most popular FemDom phone sex platform.

Everyone “says” how good they are, I can prove it.

But here’s the thing…

You are only as important to Me, as what you are doing for Me right now.

There are those men who talk about Financial Domination. That’s not Financial Domination, that’s a fantasy conversation which does absolutely nothing for Me. I don’t care about your Financial Domination and blackmail fantasies unless you are prepared to engage in doing them with Me. It’s not Financial Domination unless you are paying Me more than My initial per-minute rate.

I disengage very quickly when I realize these fantasy talkers have no intention of paying out. If I feel I have seduced a sub to a point of mad weakness, and I make a cash tribute demand or tell them I am going to hang up and raise My rate, and they have to call Me back and pay more to talk to Me, and they refuse, I am turned off. Big time.

It always turns Me off when I tell a sub to pay Me, and he refuses. Why? Because the sub right before you paid out, and the sub right after you will likely pay out. Or the next.  I’ll make up excuses why I suddenly have to go and let these fantasy subs go deal with someone else who has lower expectations. My expectations are much higher.

Then there are those sub men who will give a small, modest amount during a session. They max out at around $100-$200. Less than that is not even noticed by Me. I get a lot of these $100-$200 bit players. I’m happy to exploit them, but they simply aren’t memorable either. Not exciting. This is an extreme Financial Domination blog, I am an extreme Financial Domination Mistress. You are in the big leagues when you play with Me!!

$300-500? Better. I might remember them for a short period of time. I may even follow up with them. Give a token pursuit attempt, see if they will pay Me more the next time.

But if they fail at cashing out again, I lose interest very quickly. Remember, I am extremely popular and sought after for a reason. I’ll have another sub calling or emailing Me right after you. And another, and another. It’s only a matter of time. A short time. If you are not willing to pay, I’m already looking forward to the next conquest.

You are only as important as what you are doing for Me right now.

For those subs who will tribute Me $500-$2,000 in a single session, now you are beginning to stand out. $500 is still common for Me, $2,000 is starting to get to the stimulating point for Me. The point at which I start to feel that more intense sexual rush when a man gives Me money. While $2,000 is not a “large” amount of money, I’m starting to feel it, to get excited, to get wet. if you stop there, if this turns out to be a one-time deal, you are also forgotten. I have a lot of these subs, too.

You are only as important as what you are doing for Me right now.

$2,000-$5,000 repeat money slaves. Better. Now you are starting to get My attention. I will remember who you are when you call, I’ll recognize your ID name. I’ll have any and all personal information written down in My “Players” notebook. A special notebook I keep for those who have become both lucrative and sexually arousing for Me.

But I want more. I’m used to more. Yes, I really AM spoiled.

$5,000+ repeat cash cows and sugar Daddy types. Now you are starting to really get My attention. Submissive men and financial exploitation enthusiasts will start to get My best in return. I will go out of My way to pursue you if you desire this. To utilize the information you have given Me, to push your limits, to make it an exciting and  memorable experience for both of us. In other words, to Dominate and control you in all the ways you desire.

Still… If any of these interactions or relationships peter out? My memory retention of you withers like your cock after an orgasm. I get off sexually when men pay Me a lot of money. If the money stops, so does My mental and sexual interest in you.

You are only as important as what you are doing for Me right now.

Are there exceptions? On occasion, yes.

Even still, no matter how charming, amusing, interested, loyal, dedicated, interesting, rich, serving and flattering a sub is, if they are not paying, indulging, spoiling Me with money or something significant that in some way adds to My FemDomme Empire on a regular basis, I lose interest. I have the ability to pick and choose. The newest, latest, more exciting conquest is a short time away. There are new subs entering My world every day. Men who are trying to out do all the other subs. And among those, men who WILL pay out, and pay out in a big way on a regular basis.

And no, I really don’t give a shit about how you get the money, what kinds of lies you are telling your fat boring wife, how many credit cards you are maxing out, how many bank accounts you are tapping into. You WILL find a way to please Me.

You are only as important as what you are doing for Me right now.

There is a misconception that the men who pay Me a lot of money are wealthy. I’ve had college students and blue collar workers pay out in bigger ways than men who are wealthy.

You are only as important as what you are doing for Me right now.

Now you know, what it really takes, to get My attention, and how to hold the attention of a Domina of My popularity and caliber.

You are only as important as what you are doing for Me right now.

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The Art Of Femme Fatale FemDom Seduction

There is a real art to the Art of Femme Fatale FemDom seduction. And when applied to the Art of Domination, it can be a most powerful weapon.

You see so many descriptive words bandied about in the world of Domination: Bitch, brat, bossy, mean, demanding, cruel, force, humiliation…

And that’s one style of Domination. Oh sure, it attracts a certain type of submissive man… It’s been My personal experience, that the men attracted to this type of Domination tends to be on the lower rung of evolution. The unmotivated, the wimp, the weakling, low-to-mid level blue collar worker. Brute force seems to work for them, and I’m not judging here. They have a right to enjoy what they enjoy. There is no shortage of people who will cater to this low brow Domination, and be able to think up far more ways to deliver the word “Looosssseeer” than I ever cared to.

But for Me, I prefer bringing a whole new level of refined control to the Fine Art of Domination. Style, grace, sophistication… Using My feminine charms and predatory mind to get My way rather than the school yard bully technique. Dime a dozen, that brand of  tyrant domination. It’s a fast way to temporarily dominate someone, but it’s not effective nor lasting. In fact, it takes very little mental process at all.

What do I mean?

It’s the difference between arriving late at the cinema, only to find a long line for the ticket booth, and bossing your way to the front of the line, demanding people let you go first.

This might work, but what have you created but resentment and a bad impression?

My way would be to go up to the first man I saw standing in the front of the line and appeal to his emotions and even evoke sympathy, in fact, getting him to insist I go first.

What have I created but a favorable lasting impression, and I have made people feel good while getting My way.

That’s My personal style. And this is exactly what I mean.

It takes a certain level of intelligence to fully understand the Art of the Femme Fatale FemDomme way of being. A style I created and evolved on My own, shirking the distasteful stereotypes of the “domme cliche” you read about and encounter all too often.

In fact, men find themselves begging Me to do things to them rather than Me having to demand they do anything at all. I inspire men to want to serve Me, rather than demand they do it.

See the difference here, too?

There is a time and a place for things like being bossy, bitchy, bratty,  mean, demanding, cruel, and humiliating. But these are only part of My larger arsenal, not the tools I first reach for when getting My way.

When I arrived on the phone Mistress distance training online scene, this lower form of Domination, or “dumbination” as I call it, was all too prevalent. It’s easy to scream and yell and lose control of yourself, or to channel your hatred for men into trying to control them. Or project your own emotional baggage onto them.

But it takes real skill to know what tools to use and when, and how to appeal to the type of man I love to Dominate. Men who are also highly intelligent, smart, motivated and looking for a higher form of complex and evolved Domination themselves.

It never surprises Me how amazed men are when first encountering Me. I often hear how intimidated they were to speak to Me. Because of the power I vibrate, and because they were afraid I’d consume them, that they’d lose control to Me whether they wanted to or not. Let Me assure you, when they do lose control, they thank Me for it.

I know this is speaking to a certain segment of you reading this. I know this is unlike anything you have ever read before. And if this intrigues you, then discover why I am top rated and top ranked Mistress on niteflirt. Sabina Erotica. Let your new journey into My world of evolved Femme Fatale FemDomme Domination begin.

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