I engage in very specific forms of humiliation, but, infrequently. Why? I find a lot of forms of humiliation to be far too low brow for My personal taste because in My experience, it tends to attract the lower rung of the male submissive herd. However, there are always many exceptions. I felt this wikipedia article was informative enough to post, for your information, and quite frankly My own personal reference. I have edited it to exclude terms or forms I do not participate in.
Erotic humiliation is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context, whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned, or of humiliating another; often (but not always) in conjunction with sexual stimulation of one or both partners in the activity. The humiliation need not be sexual in itself; as with many other sexual activities it is the feelings derived from it which are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. It can be verbal or physical, and can be relatively private or public. Often it can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance or online. The distinction between humiliation and dominance in an activity such as erotic spanking is that the sought-after effect is primarily the humiliation; the activity is just a means to that end.
While fantasy and fascination with erotic humiliation is a prevalent part of BDSM or other sexual roleplay, relatively little has been written on it. Humiliation play can however be taken to a point where it becomes emotionally or psychologically distressing to one or the other partner, especially if it is public humiliation. Erotic femdom humiliation can become extreme enough to be considered a form of edgeplay, that some consider may best be approached with advance negotiation and use of a safeword. This is a highly subjective issue, and depends greatly on context.
Terminology and overview
The person being humiliated is often called a bottom, and the person who humiliates them is often called the top, (though these are standard terms used in general dominant/submissive role play and are not specific to humiliation interests) or if female, sometimes humiliatrix. Other common names are slave or sub/submissive for the bottom, and Master/Mistress or Dom/Domme for the top.
Humiliation is not the same as dominance, as the devotee is not necessarily seeking to be ordered about. Humiliation comes into its own as a sexual force when the devotee seeks the humiliation over and above the means; for example, when being spanked is primarily valued because of the belittlement involved. As such, it encompasses a range of paraphilia, in particular foot fetish or shoe fetish, body worship, spanking, bondage and most BDSM styles. It can be as basic as the desire to kiss and massage feet as a precursor to sex, or it can be complex, involving roleplay or public displays of subservience. It can also be for a set period of time (a “scene”) or as an ongoing facet of a relationship. The “humiliation” is not intrinsic to the act or the object. Rather, it is semiotically charged by the shared attitude of the partners engaged in the act. It is they who invest specific acts, objects or body-parts with a humiliating aspect.
Means of humiliation
Means of humiliation
There are many scenarios which may be considered as giving rise to sexual humiliation. Some scenarios may be based on verbal abuse and others on physical aspects.
Verbal aspects might include:
* Reduction to Human animal roleplay or human pet, referring to these individuals as pet, dog, bitch, or making them eat and drink from pet food and water bowls.
* Verbal belittlement, such as “slave”, “boy”, “pet”.
* Insults and verbal abuse, such as “fat”, “ugly”, “stupid”, “worthless”.
* Degrading references, such as “slut”, “tart”, “bitch”, and “whore”.
* Racial or ethnic slurs
* Slighting of body parts or behaviors, such as disparaging or cruel references to size, facial appearance, genitalia or genital size, bottom, and slighting of mannerisms such as walking, responsiveness, standard of self-care.
* Having to ask permission for everyday activities such as spending money or eating.
* Small penis humiliation, where scorn is addressed over the supposed inadequacy of the adult male’s genitals, or his inability to please a lover, and his penis becomes an object of derision.
* Repetition, such as being obliged to repeat back commands to confirm them.
* Seduced flattery, such as agreeing that every decision that the dominant makes is wise, correct, and justifiable, while additionally praising the dominant’s physical and personality traits.
* Mockery, derision, and ridicule.
* Being scolded.
Physical and tangible aspects might include:
* Ejaculating from other men or spitting on the bottom’s body, especially the face.
* Performance of menial tasks or abusive workload, such as cleaning the floors with a toothbrush.
* Frequent, mandatory performance of sexual services for the dominant, such as erotic massage, cunnilingus, analingus, or fellatio, without expectations of reciprocal acts or intercourse.
* Detailed accountability and control (micro-management) as to time spent or activities done, including list of jobs to do, precise directions as to how the housework is to be performed, and exactly how to act and behave.
* Specific rituals and affectations to be adopted. This includes displays of subservience, such as lighting cigarettes, walking a pace behind the dominant, only speaking when spoken to, kneeling or prostrating in front of the dominant when expecting orders, eating only after others or on the floor, low status place to sleep, and a wide variety of body worship activities such as kissing or licking the dominant’s feet, boots, buttocks, anus, vulva, etc. to express acknowledgment, subservience, shame, or even positive emotions such as happiness or excitement.
* Suppressed freedom of movement and/or privacy. This may include never being able to leave the room in which the dominant is present without permission, being forbidden to leave the house or ‘dungeon’ in general for the duration of slavery or servitude, etc.
* Detailed punishments for a variety of ‘infractions’ or misbehavior, such as having to stand in a corner facing a wall for several hours, reduced rations, or excessive exercise..
* Spanking, slapping, restraint or other BDSM activities such as cock and ball torture (CBT).
* Prohibitions or restrictions on clothing, even in public. For men, a particularly powerful sense of humiliation may be achieved through feminizing or cross-dressing. Men may be expected to go completely nude, with decorative objects such as collars, bands, bow ties, or cuffs being the only exceptions.
* Use of chastity belts or other means of erotic sexual denial.
* Wearing of external signs of “ownership”, such as a collar.
* Having friends, family or strangers aware of or witnessing one’s treatment (i.e., public humiliation).
* Erotic objectification, where the bottom is cast in the role of an object, such as a footstool.
* Male anal penetration using dildos, anal plugs or similar objects.
* Cuckoldry, taking on a third party lover to humiliate the bottom as an expression of the relationship between the top and the bottom. In this scenario, the bottom typically is allowed only to witness, and not invited or permitted to participate.
* Having to ask permission to orgasm during sex or masturbation.
* Wearing a gag or restraints on the body.
* Financial domination, where usually a submissive (or money slave) will give gifts and money to a dominant. The relation may often be accompanied by other practices of BDSM, but there may be virtually no further intimacy between the individuals.
* Teased masturbation in a humiliating manner.
* Feelings of humiliation are key to many of those engaged in klismaphilia.
Some sexual humiliation involves inflicting pain, but much of it is far more concerned with ridicule, mocking, degradation, and embarrassment
Psychology of humiliation
Humiliation in general stimulates the same brain regions that are associated with physical pain, the inference being that humans evolved to remember social rewards and punishments as strongly as other animals recall physical reward or pain in response to their environment. As with any form of pain experimentation in a sexual context, consent and (paradoxically) a high degree of awareness and communication is needed to ensure that the result is desirable, rather than abusive. For example, a submissive may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but be genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways.
Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualised by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) one’s sexual degradation.
For some people, activities such as name-calling are a way of achieving ego reduction or getting over sexual inhibitions. For example, between gay people, terms usually associated with homophobia may be used, such as “faggot” or “dyke.”
As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies relating to mild humiliation are not uncommon. Some humiliation roleplay (pup-play in particular) is combined with loyalty and care-giving to the extent that these fetishes can be seen as exercises in trust rather than primarily a humiliation fetish. Consider that the desire to be beneath the other partner during intercourse, the idea of “getting caught” such as with having sex in the garden or woods, are mild emotional games that emphasise status, vulnerability and control. However, for most people such ideas remain a fantasy and they would have strong reservations about it being made public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. If a person does reveal their fetish to their partners, this usually is a result of a huge amount of trust invested in them, due to the similarly huge psychological struggle they would have had to have gone through to tell them. However, the desire to be humiliated may be a motivating cause for confession as the act of confessing would be humiliating. Many people have the worry of being ridiculed for their fetish, and such ridicule from their partners could be psychologically catastrophic. Therefore, many people use online humiliation (where the humiliator and others are involved via the internet using chat, email, websites, etc.) as a compromise between exhibitionism and reality on the one hand, and safety and anonymity on the other.
Online humiliation is the desire to be seen in a sexually embarrassing context via the internet. This practice allows the submissive to seek fetish partners from across the world.
Common methods of online humiliation include:
* Public pillory
* Embarrassing photographic or video assignments for submissives – submissive must humiliate themselves on camera, etc.
* The requirement for submissives to keep online journals, detailing personal information such as masturbation frequency and details
* Verbal abuse
* Publicly bidding for items that reveal their fetishes
* Money slavery – submissive must buy dominant gifts, pay for bills, or pay taxes
* Homework slavery – submissive must do the dominant’s homework, or occupational work
* Repetitive assignments such as copying the phone book, etc.
These practices can be conducted via chat, webcam, e-mail, BDSM contact websites such as niteflirt.
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