Phone Sex Operator (PSO):
A phone sex worker who acts as if she (or he) is a domme, mistress, princess, cuckoldress or any other role she is acting at the moment and depending on the “character” she is “playing”. She is strictly doing the acting for money and is none of the things she acts.
If you cannot fine a pro or lifestyle domme, call a PSO. A tiny number are real pros and lifestylers, but lies abound.
Use your instinct: If she sound s scripted or fake hang up on her. If her voice does not match the picture, hang up. If all the photos look professionally lit, they are fake. If she has no photos of herself dominating men, she is a fake. If you do not care and just want to jerk off, this is cool too. In that case, who cares if she does the job.
A Pro Domme or Professional Dominatrix:
A woman who dons a more active role play acting a dominant woman. May wear any number of costumes to portray who she is. Has knowledge of the more physical types of domination such as BDSM, being tied up, flogging, etc.
Does it strictly for money (only a TINY number of exceptions I have found) and many are current or ex escorts (source eros) and it is a business transaction. There is no real emotional connection because the pro is interested in a session for the money. Again, a very tiny number do enjoy their work, but still tend to do this as a way of making money and many complain they do not like working with the vast majority of the men they deal with.
If you cannot find a lifestyle domme, then try to find a pro who seems to enjoy her work, who is in control, (for example: an obese woman can’t even control her weight, how can she control you? However, there are guys who like big dommes, so these are just suggestions about finding pros who understand controlling men).
Find one who has strict professional standards, safe word use, safe and sane play, not one who will make a sub eat her sh*t for example. Totally disgusting women out there playing “pros”. In fact, bring your own dildos, strap ons or anything else that may be inserted anywhere. Talk to her on the phone first. If she seems fake, bored or disengaged, hang up on her and try another. If she does not respond to your well written intro email, forget her. Move on.
A Lifestyle Domme or Mistress:
This is a real FemDom who genuinely loves to control men. She does it for the personal pleasure she derives from doing it and while she may very well be financially indulged by her submissive men and slaves, she well deserves it because she authentically loves controlling men. You connect with good lifestyle dommes because they really enjoy who and what they are. It’s a way of life for them NOT a business transaction, hence the experiences with lifestyle FemDoms are worth every penny and far more, your time, devotion and servitude. You still have to find the one’s who really understand how to control men oth psychologically and physically or in whatever ways you desire. A bithch is a woman out of control of herself, but if you like bitchie women, then go for it.
My advice comes from 30 year’s as a submissive man who has seen and tried it all.
Stay away from phone sex operators unless you are desperate or don’t care except to jerk off, stay away from 99% of the pro dommes unless impersonal cold business exchanges are your kink, and find an amazing lifelong lifestyle domme who has always been a dominant woman, NO switches. I have yet to meet a former submissive women who could really convince me she was a real dominant woman inside and out.
Before I met Sabina Erotica, I didn’t think a real domina existed. I had to settle for boring phone sex, the occasional bad pro dommes in desperation, and I searched and searched, almost giving up hope.
Once I discovered Sabina Erotica, there was no other woman that existed in my world from that moment on. That’s when I realized, REAL FemDoms existed!